prayer please

I am asking for prayer from my closest of friends and family. Pray for peace from anxiety for Nathan. Nathan has been screaming, crying, and refusing to use the toilet. This has been going on for about a week or so since Nathan has started preschool. He hasn't had any accidents at preschool. I have asked him nicely and bribed him with candy but he refuses to pee in the potty. He is holding it in and wetting himself. Maybe this is the one thing that he thinks he can control. Maybe he feels out of control in his life. There are new kids in his class but he is in the same preschool room with the same teachers. He has a new speech pathologist and para working with him now. I am at my wits end. I have been crying all day. Nathan refused to change out of his pajamas and put his clothes on. He sat in time out for about 40 minutes. It seems like he is always in time out. I have been spanking him as well. Maybe he doesn't like the spankings. I am also at my wits end with Chloe as well with potty training. Accidents all the time. We are using pull-ups though. Nathan doesn't care if he pees in his pants. He will sit in it and not tell me and he doesn't want to change out of his pee clothes. I don't think my nerves can take much more of this. I am considering going to talk to a doctor or counselor. Maybe I need anxiety medicine or depression medicine. I really don't like the idea of being on a drug. All of your prayers are needed and welcomed.